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a note from the editor

Whoever you are, wherever you are, welcome. I’m so grateful you are here.

Human. That's the word I've been mulling over for the past few months. I've been really feeling it. What does it mean to me that I'm... human? It's more than just a statement of fact. Sure, it includes the physical — that I need food, water, sleep, shelter.

It includes how I function mentally and emotionally — that some things make me cry, some things make me angry, some things make me feel anxious, or numb, or tired in a way that's so different than the need for sleep. It includes other things too, like my expectations for myself — have I accomplished everything that I wanted to this year, this month, this week, today? And even if I accomplished something... is it the thing that really matters to me? If I had to choose what I really wanted to say I had done this year — if I could paint a picture of the life that I would really feel good about — what would it be?

And what about time? The fact that there are only 24 hours in a day has been overwhelmingly clear to me lately. My to-do list keeps stretching and stretching and the hours on the clock stay the same.

In some ways, being a human should be so simple. But — it's also not.

We live in these complex societies where our options are so often so limited by things like where we live, what job we have, how much money we make, whether we have insurance, who we know, and all kinds of other factors. Being a human in this world in 2020 is finding ourselves inside this big, old — surprisingly old, really — web of man-made systems.


Now, what do we do with that? There are many, many opinions — many of them very deeply felt and strongly defended. Discussing it can go from cold to hot in the time it takes to hit enter on a new post, comment, text — whatever.

Me? I don't have answers. I have thoughts and I admit I can defend them hotly as much as the next person. But I have lots of questions, still.  Which makes me want to hear stories. I want to know how other humans have dealt with all these human things.

When someone else tells me what they've gone through, sure, maybe it'll help me decide what I can or want to do, but maybe more importantly — it just takes me outside of myself for a little bit. I stop thinking of myself as the center of all of this.

It's good to be humbled. We don't talk very much about that. How good it is to find out we're wrong about something — or to learn that our stories aren't everyone's stories — I can go through the same experience as someone else with different outcomes and different feelings.

Nothing is simple. But you know, that isn't bad — in fact, it's beautiful.

Just think about how not simple it is to be born. And how beautiful that is. If it hurts sometimes, if it's hard, if it's not how we imagined it — that's okay.

The best thing about being human, I think, is the opportunity to be here in this world,  right now, together. My hope is that we listen to each other, and from that, make old systems new.

Cheyenne Varner
Executive Editor
colby tulachanh
@the.house.of.wild
patricia friere

content

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The Joy of Nesting
Rachel's shares her journey to creating the right nursery space for her and baby.
5 Alternatives to Gender Reveal Parties
A few more ways to celebrate new babies with all of our love.
Home, Birth Center, and Hospital Birth
An intro to what option fits you and stories from three parents.
Prenatal Appointments
Caring for the parent before the big birth day.
Behind the Scenes with Nurse Midwife Nikki
What's in a care provider's "birth bag"?
All About the Pelvic Floor
All your questions answered by a real pelvic floor therapist.
Acupunture in Labor & Delivery
Did you know that the use of ultra-fine needles could support your pregnancy, labor and birth?
Postpartum Meals
How to make bone broth — full of nutrients and easy to make!
Yoga Positions for Pregnancy Pain
Uncomfortable? Try some of these yoga-approved positions for relief.
4 Things I Wish I'd Known About Postpartum
The more we know, the better we're prepared, and the smoother our experience becomes, too.

The Joy of Nesting

with Rachel, Issa and Salim

light and form studio
@lightandformphoto
what has pregnancy been like for you in the past and how did this latest pregnancy compare?
In my first pregnancy, my physical health was excellent, but I was in a toxic relationship. After moving in with my child's father at about 5-6 months pregnant, I realized I had made a huge mistake. I was isolated and my partner was not only unsupportive, but I later realized, emotionally abusive.

Luckily I am now surrounded by amazing friends and chosen family. I also have a wonderful therapist, which I recommend for all people! After grieving the experience of the first pregnancy, I was able to enjoy this new chapter. I also chose to be pregnant via anonymous sperm donor to feel completely liberated from the first pregnancy which had led to years of fighting for custody of my daughter. Now I look at my 3 month old and can’t imagine how I made it through that fire with such a little baby so soon postpartum.
what was a challenge that you faced during this pregnancy? how did you deal with it?
Early in my latest pregnancy I had flashbacks from the first pregnancy. I would sometimes feel afraid or sad that I was not being supported. After I got over that hurdle with lots of gentleness and compassion, my mom became very ill. I also worked a lot more than during the first pregnancy because I have a child care business and my creative company. I had to seriously pace myself and rest. I had to learn to make boundaries and I lost several friends and clients when I asserted my limits!
light and form studio
@lightandformphoto
what was something that gave you joy during this pregnancy?
I loved having Black midwifery care and being held in the Bay Area community of birth workers. I felt truly honored and valuable as a member of the birth justice world. I also liked working out when I could because I already had an exercise flow in my life before I got pregnant.
what was the process of creating your nursery like?
I knew I wanted to create a true nursery like in the magazines! A girl can dream, right? Even though I knew the baby would sleep in my bed most of the time and they didn't need a nursery, I wanted one symbolically to celebrate my triumph and peace with my new pregnancy. An IG mompreneur had contacted me about doing a design project in my home so I hinted that I wanted to do a nursery. She was super enthusiastic. I showed her a picture from a magazine and some pins of nurseries I never thought I could achieve. Like magic she put together a plan and told me what to buy. I wanted to use my daughter’s crib and repurpose an old dresser into a changing table so I didn’t need many major items.
what do you think is most important to consider when designing a nursery space?
The funny thing is I wanted to be sure to have a luxurious rocking chair. My friend offered me her used glider and ottoman and I turned it down because I had a vision for an upholstered rocker. I wanted it to be plush and cozy and I’m so glad I stuck with it because I spent many nights sleeping in that chair with my newborn.
light and form studio
@lightandformphoto
what are three things you couldn't do without in your nursery?
Plants. Must have green and clean air! An activity table and chairs for my older child so she felt included and could be occupied with art or school work while I care for baby. A humidifier. Because newborns really need moist air! One more — a white noise machine so I didn't have to hear the 12 other children downstairs in my house because my preschool continued to operate after I gave birth!
what are a few things you could do without in your nursery?
We almost never use the crib. I don’t overemphasize changing tables and disposable diaper supplies/diaper genie because I do elimination communication (since day three with my new baby) and cloth diapers.
What were some other ways that you nested in preparation for your little one?
I made some cloth baby wipes out of my daughter’s receiving blankets. I also set up the homebirth room in my bedroom with old towels and baby blankets, the birth pool, plastic mattress and floor protection, and a birth art altar.
rachel bolden-kramer
@babymommarachel


Rachel's Top 5 Tips for a Nursery That's Beautiful + Practical

1

Start with what you already have.
It'll help your budget stretch! It’s not too hard to change the color of a piece of furniture to make it into a whole new statement piece.
2

Decide which colors make you feel royal.
You will need lots of reinforcement of how wonderful you are during the last weeks of pregnancy and the first weeks postpartum. And well for the rest of your life as a parent.
3

Get a team of helpers.
Hiring a designer isn't always too pricey and they can make your vision pop in unexpected ways. Help with other tasks is wise, too. I did not paint the ceiling myself!
4

Give yourself plenty of time.
Allow yourself to move slowly because you’re pregnant and already have life going on. Progress will inevitably take longer than expected. I was due in November. I planned to start the nursery in July. It actually started in September.
5

Use facebook marketplace.
You can find some things cheaper by purchasing second-hand online,  so you can dedicate more of your budget to — say a wool rug (no toxic plastic off gassing!).


lauren novak photo

5 Alternative to Gender Reveal Parties

because gender isn't a binary!

You may have seen shirts or memes sporting the phrase: “the future is non-binary.” Gender identities outside of the binary of male and female have existed for centuries, so the past is as non-binary as the future, but as more young people openly express gender identities, perhaps it is a good time to actively factor gender liberation into our parenting decisions.

You've probably heard of a “gender reveal party” (or been to two, or ten) — a type of baby shower that focuses on sharing the gender of the baby or babies a family is expecting. One of the parents who helped popularize gender reveal parties, Jenna Myers Karvunidis, later wrote that “assigning focus on gender at birth leaves out so much of [the baby’s] potential and talents that have nothing to do with what’s between their legs.” Many trans and non-binary individuals, activists, and educators — myself included — see gender reveal parties as problematic, for cis- and transgender babies alike.

Why? Because if gender isn’t binary, and if only an individual can know their own gender, then announcing a baby’s gender isn’t all that helpful and can be harmful.

You and your baby deserve all of the love, celebration, and support, and there are ways to get that without reinforcing the stereotypes of the gender binary. Forget “balls or bows?” and “tractors or tiaras?” and create a celebration that honors you and your child for exactly who you are and whoever they will become.

1. Have a "Possibility Party" for your baby.
Understand and embrace that you really don’t know who this tiny human is or will be yet, so now is the perfect time to practice loving, caring for, and supporting them no matter what. Invite guests to join you in celebrating all the possibilities of who this kid is and will be. It can be dinosaur-themed, unicorn-themed, rainbow themed — maybe it’s princess and LEGO themed — what it really celebrates is the loving, supportive community your little one already has.

2. Go the educational route.
A baby shower can be a great opportunity to connect with loved ones and educate them on baby-related topics. Maybe you want to talk about gender, or take action to support groups that combat racism and implicit bias in reproductive health. Perhaps you want to share why your homebirth decision is important to you. It’s your party! It's a great time to share what’s on your heart and ask folks to rally with you.

3. Skip the party and ask folks to join you for the long haul.
Sometimes we feel forgotten and alone once the festivities have ended. If a party doesn’t feel right, you could ask your loved ones to celebrate your growing family in other quieter, more spread out, and sustainable ways. Make a video chat calendar and ask folks to sign up to hang out and cheer you weekly through the rest of your pregnancy (and into postpartum too!). Send out a meal train, asking folks to bring or buy meals for you and your household. Request letters and love notes to fill a jar that you can pick from when you need a boost. Ask for notes, drawings, photos — gifts for your baby to set aside from day one.

4. Focus on the parents.
Yes, new humans special and awesome, but big people are too! Bringing a baby into the world (and then raising that baby) is big work, and it can feel lonely, difficult, and exhausting. Your baby will be celebrated oh-so-much when they get here, so instead of a baby shower focused on your baby’s body parts, why not throw a postpartum shower for you (singular or plural you! Birthing people, co-parents, surrogates, partners—whoever it feels right to include!)? Ask for gifts that will help you care for your healing and/or sleep-deprived body, play games or do rituals that help you connect to yourself as human AND parent, or listen to birth and postpartum stories and wisdom from others in your circle (consider hiring a doula or other support person to facilitate to help you steer clear of trauma porn, unsolicited advice, or monopolized conversation).

5. Just wait.
In my opinion, the only good gender reveal party is the one you're asked to throw by the person it's celebrating. Some parents and families hold gender reveal parties for their kids once they’re older and have expressed their own gender, particularly if the human being celebrated is trans or non-binary. That’s awesome! Is your kid a girl? A boy? An enby? Some other wonderful gender term you don’t know yet?! The only way to know for sure is to wait until your kid tells you, and when that happens, by all means celebrate this amazing big or tiny human with a huge celebration. (Letting them choose what colors, words, themes, and decorations feel gender affirming, of course.)
andrew rich
@theandrewaugust
tifani beecher
@tifanibeecherphotography

home, birth center,
and hospital birth

a brief intro to what fits you

home
Does this fit me?
Those who choose home birth often trust their knowledge of their body and health needs, and may even feel uncomfortable with the traditional medical system and hospitals due to histories of racist and unjust practices.
What do I need?
A home birth kit. This usually includes basic supplies like chux pads, gloves, gauze, lubricating gel, bulb syringe, cord clamps, peri bottle, cleansing solution, and alcohol prep pads, among other items suggested by the Midwife.
Can I afford it?
Home birth expenses are often paid out of pocket and provide for the Midwife, Midwife’s Assistant, and any necessary supplies as dictated by the Midwife. Costs range from $1,500-$3,000.*
birth center
Does this fit me?
Those who choose a birth center may be seeking a positive balance between birthing at home and birthing in a hospital. The birthing person likely wants a collaborative partnership and nurturing relationship with their Midwife, and is engaged in the decision-making process of their care.
What do I need?
An overnight bag with basic toiletries, and snacks or drinks, if desired.
Can I afford it?
Costs are different based on where you live and what’s available. On average, the cost ranges from $3,000-$6,800; some insurance companies may cover a portion of the expenses.**
hospital
Does this fit me?
Many people give birth in the hospital because they trust the traditional medical system as the authority on pregnancy and childbirth, have what’s considered a high-risk pregnancy, or want to go where their Midwife or OB always attends births.
What do I need?
Hospital pre-registration paperwork, your insurance card, your ID, and baby’s car seat installed. A hospital bag packed with basic 2-3 days of overnight toiletries, and other items to make the space comfortable.
Can I afford it?
The national median cost of a childbirth hospital stay was $13,524 in 2014, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, but most expenses for the birthing person and newborn are covered by health insurance if in network.
*These are estimates based on national averages. Exact costs vary depending upon the care provider.
**These are estimates based on national averages. Exact costs vary depending upon the care provider and individual insurance coverage.
kenya fairley
@kenyathedoula
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home birth

story

rhonda's story
“At my first birth, I wasn't listened to, my medical provider mismanaged my labor, and the life of myself and my child were in danger, so I had a cesarean.  

When my husband and I found out we were expecting again, we decided to have a home birth with a midwife and doula to achieve a different experience. To increase my chances of a successful VBAC, I saw a chiropractor and a pelvic floor specialist. I also prepared mentally, physically, and spiritually by praying, meditating, using words of affirmation, staying physically active and surrounding myself with positivity.  

My labor started early on a Sunday morning. I woke up around 3am with irregular contractions and nausea. I had Braxton Hicks for several weeks, so I wasn’t sure at first, but by 8am my contractions were consistent and my body was giving me other labor signs.

When the midwives checked me at about 3pm I was 2cm dilated and 70% effaced. I consented to a membrane sweep and a midwife showed me some restful positions that would keep things moving. With my doula and my husband, I did exercises on the birth ball, walked, and  took a relaxing bath until the midwives returned. They instructed me to rest and reassured me that things were moving in the right direction.

Over the next 12 hours my contractions increased in intensity. Around noon on Monday the midwives checked me — I was 3cm dilated and still about 70-80%. By this point I had been in labor over 30 hours and I was tired and getting discouraged. My birth team reassured me that my body was doing exactly what it needed to do. “Your baby will be born at the perfect time,” were the words they repeatedly used to encourage me.

Shortly after, my water broke, the pain intensified and my contractions became more frequent. Over the next 9 hours I labored in the shower, in our bedroom, in the living room, and in the birth pool.

Around 11pm the pain was extremely intense, and the contractions seemed to be coming back to back. I knew we were getting close. I pushed in the pool then decided to get out and allow gravity to help me. My husband supported me while I squatted and pushed in our living room before transitioning to our bed. Our baby girl Everlee Mae was born shortly afterwards at 1am Tuesday morning on her due date.

The birth of my daughter was healing, redemptive, spiritual and more than I could have ever imagined. Not for one second did I feel devalued, unsafe, or afraid.”
Rhonda, 37
Cordova, TN
videographer: rodrick okoth

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birth center

story

olivia's story
“Our birth center experience was amazing, starting well before I gave birth. The staff made it clear my desires and concerns were important and the knowledge they shared allowed me to recognize my body as strong, powerful and capable.

Overall, my pregnancy was normal, but I was at risk of gestational diabetes, which would have been a deal-breaker for a birth center birth.  For this, I was given appointments with a nutritionist/nurse who sat with me at the center’s kitchen table and talked me through meal plans to successfully get through pregnancy.

During labor, our midwife struck a perfect balance between being present to check on me and the baby, and leaving me alone to do what they helped prepare me for.  We had a doula, Jen Bultman, and a birth photographer, Heather Whitten, and they too managed to be there and support us while also giving us our space and peace in those intimate moments.  

I recall looking up from the tub and realizing that Jen arrived and was ready with cool water with a straw and lip balm at the exact moment I needed them.  In another moment of clarity, I saw Heather and I smiled at her, feeling apologetic that Jayce was coming early and she was called to be there on her birthday!  I’ll forever be grateful she was able to share the day with us — we still display the beautiful images she captured on our living room wall.  

One of the things I remember most about that day is how strangely calm I felt.  I often checked-in with myself, trying to understand why and how. The sensations I felt during contractions and pushing were wholly new yet I never once felt fear or panic.  I know without a doubt this was in large part due to the way the midwives cared for us.  

The running joke in the family was that my husband would need a bed next to mine for when he passed out during labor. With support, Derek was just as prepared as I was for the big day. Not only did he labor in the tub with me — it was his chest I leaned on when it was time to push our child into this world.  As my son came out and into the water, our midwife kept careful watch and queued me that the umbilical cord was wrapped around his shoulder.  With her help gently unraveling the cord, I was able to reach down with old my own two hands and lift him out of the water, with one red rose petal atop his perfect little head.  When our son’s eyes opened for the first time it was both of his parents faces that he first saw and it was our fingers he squeezed for the first time.”
Olivia
Tucson, AZ
photographer: heather whitten
@thisunrulylife

a

hospital birth

story

meredith's story
“My first birth experience was not at all what I wanted it to be. I did not hire a Doula or midwife and completely trusted the hospital and ended up in an emergency C-section that I believe was not necessary.

For my second pregnancy I decided to arm myself with a better team and a better plan so that I could have the experience that I wanted. Because I was a VBAC, the hospital was pretty much the best option for me — I knew it was possible to still have what I wanted.

I dreamt of having a fully natural birth with no pain management or intervention. It was my wish for my first pregnancy and I was determined to do the best I could to have it for my second especially after the traumatic experience I had. I was married with my first baby and single with my second so I had a little more autonomy. I hired a doula (Melanie Headley) and I switched OB practices and started seeing a midwife immediately.

Fast forward to my due date. I had a very easy pregnancy, maintaining my fitness and health much better than I did with my first.

With my first I had a week of prodromal labor before I went into the hospital and it seemed that was going to be the case with my second as well. I was in labor for close to five days and my second  baby was two weeks late.

Avoiding intervention was very difficult two weeks late. I almost gave up several times because it was so painful and exhausting. I was very lucky to have an amazing team to keep me motivated. My best friend was my birth partner. She stayed with me all week, slept in my bed with me, tracked every contraction and stayed in touch with Melanie and my midwife while I labored for days.

Finally the night before my daughter was born we agreed it was time to call in the doula — I had reached my breaking point.

I arrived at the hospital at 6:15 in the morning on August 3 and my daughter was born without intervention at 9:25 am after 3 hours of squatting and working through exhaustion, pain and 17 minutes of pushing. I was surrounded by women who I trusted had my best interest at heart and it was an absolutely magical experience. I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world and I will never forget how they supported me. We were home from the hospital in just over 24 hours.

I wish I could’ve had her at home, especially in the time of Covid. But with the correct team of people that I trusted my hospital birth was the beautiful experience that I wanted and needed.
Meredith, 38
Richmond, VA
photographer: melanie headley
@melanie.headley

Prenatal Appointments

caring for you before the birth

A prenatal appointment with a returning client at Magnolia Birth House. @magnoliabirthhouse




Most of the care you get during pregnancy happens before birth. So what's a prenatal appointment like anyway?

at the start
When a pregnancy test shows a positive result — that's how soon you can book a first appointment with a care provider.

The first prenatal visits are often used to check the health of the pregnant person, obtain medical history, perform some basic blood tests and to confirm the pregnancy for good measure. You may also have meetings to cover nutrition counseling, exercise during pregnancy, your birth plans, taking childbirth education classes and the benefits of hiring a doula. This is a perfect time to discuss any hopes, dreams and fears with your provider. And it's a perfect time to make sure you're at the right place and with the right medical team for you.

the model of care
Your experience with prenatal care will depend in large part on the model of care your care provider practices. The midwifery model of care presents pregnancy as a state of wellness rather than illness and focuses on the individual. Prenatal care in this model not simply a checklist. It is proactive, engaging, and focuses on information and lifestyle change. The medical model of care tends to focus on how to treat problems when something is the body is not functioning correctly — and this easily affects the medical approach to caring for pregnancy. In the medical model, pregnancy can be treated similarly to illness, by looking for ways to manage it. Of course, there are instances when conditions surrounding pregnancy may really need medical treatment. It's best when these are managed case by case and not as a part of routine care. Do all doctors follow the medical model of care? No. Some OBs also use the midwifery model, which has been proven most effective in saving lives and reducing maternity and infant mortality and morbidity rates in low-risk pregnant people.

in the middle
The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) suggest 14 visits during the full term of pregnancy as a bare minimum. A bare minimum visit can look like 5-10 minutes in the office to get weighed, check vitals, have fundal height measured, deposit urine in a cup and listen to the baby’s heartbeat. Sometimes a birthing person spends more time in the waiting room than actually being seen by the doctor or midwife. But it doesn't have to be that way. Proactive care can reduce preterm labor, reduce the risk of miscarriage and always includes and centers on good nutrition and hydration.

In addition to in-person visits, patients can often leave messages for care providers via a personal online portal. These may not result in extra in-person visits but are important, too.

In a healthy relationship with a care provider, questions are always answered, and the care provider is accessible.  Even something as simple as how to handle the common cold or flu might lead to a discussion on increasing vitamin C and D. A question about constipation can lead to the client adding more vegetables to their diet. Mental health checks should always part of the conversation, too, with attention to anxiety that could lead to depression down the line. Even if there aren't any risks of mental health disorders, all pregnant peopel should feel comfortable discussing their emotions with their provider. Common pregnancy ailments and sleeping relief can also be addressed and resolved. You should never feel like a burden.

A prenatal appointment with midwife Christine Taylor of Birth by Grace Midwifery in Georgia. @birthbygrace


the home stretch
At about 37 weeks of pregnancy, you'll start to hear about the possibility of or ways to reduce inductions (starting labor using some kind of intervention) or augmentation (helping labor speed up using some kind of intervention).

Depending on what you want, natural methods can be reviewed and implemented for your labor. Your care provider may talk to you about exercises to open the pelvic inlet and outlet. You may discuss changes to your diet, such as consuming Mediterranean dates or using intimacy and nipple stimulation to promote natural induction or cervical ripening (when the cervix softens in preparation labor). Late term testing according to ACOG and evidence-based alternatives are offered and reviewed.

Dues dates are often discussed at this time, and it's good to be sure you and your care provider are on the same page. Do they see due dates as estimates, or is pressure being placed to have medical inductions?

tests + techniques
One of the things I disliked during my pregnancies many moons ago was being given prescriptions to be tested elsewhere. Traveling several cities away for basic testing and waiting for weeks for results was never fun. It doesn't always have to be that way either. Some providers have ultrasound technicians right on the premises. This means that information about viability; growth and qualitative diagnostics can be performed in office with your doctor interpreting the data. While this may not always cover all needs, it's great when it is available.

Quality testing can be vital to determining risks to the wellness of both a growing baby and a pregnant person. That being said, a patient’s rights are always top of the list. So alternative medicines and treatments are often also given as options.

Many childbirth classes review true informed consent and evidence based birth science and practices. Education is the best way to make informed decisions and be empowered to see your choices through.

referring out to meet your needs
Supporting pregnant people sometimes means referring them to other care professionals who can offer different types of support. Pelvic floor therapy, nutrition and diet counseling, acupuncture, massage, and chiropractic care are all great examples.

These professionals, working alongside your main care provider, can help you reach health goals during pregnancy and set you up for positive outcomes during and after birth.

and what about after the birth?
In the hospital, postpartum care is provided by nurses, who often check-in with patients over a 24-48 hour period before discharge. Birth center patients are often discharged much earlier, between 4-6 hours following birth, but that's not all the postpartum care they're given. Phone calls and/or additional in-person visits are common in the first days after a baby's birth. These help to determine the immediate needs of hte family and babies can be seen by pediatricians within 48 hours. Most clients are seen within the first week of birth and 2-3 times more before the 6th week of postpartum.

It is so important for new parents to have a professional staying in touch with them. Doulas are highly recommended not only as labor support but to offer more postpartum support, too.

above and beyond
Your prenatal care should go above and beyond to ensure that the values and the goals of you and your family are honored. You should have all the options you need to choose the birth that best fits you via the model of care that best fits your needs.

A cohesive unit of care, whether that includes midwives, doctors, doulas, nurses, technicians, nutrionists, chiropractors, or anything more completes a full package of care.

michelle gabriel-caldwell

special thanks to dr. nicola pemberton
and kate keller, cnm for contributing

Behind the Scenes

with nurse midwife Nikki


We talk about birth bags for parents, well our providers have a few things up their sleeves, too! A variety of tools and tests are available to keep you safe and cared for in pregnancy and labor — here are a few:

the whole birth bag unpacked
Nikki what do you bring to a birth?! TONS OF THINGS!! In addition to my brain, heart, hands and 21 years of maternal child experience I bring the equipment in this picture AND more. Certified Nurse Midwifery care is not antiquated. Certified Nurse Midwifery care is evidence based and safe. Midwives provide exceptional prenatal, birth and postpartum care to birthing people. We come prepared for all the things and usually have to do none of them. Birth outcomes are a reflection of prenatal care received. Obtain great care for a great birth!
non-stress tests
Roll that beautiful baby footage! This is one reactive baby! We perform NST’s (non stress tests) here at the SANM office for clients that want or need them. A non stress test is a snapshot that can provide reassurance of fetal wellbeing. NST’s are written documentation of the baby’s status at that time. We look at the baby’s baseline, any accelerations and any decelerations in the tracing that prints out. We also ask mom to push the marker button every time she notices fetal movement. A combination of all the data including how baby responds to contractions (if any) give us an overall picture of reassurance. This sweet babe is doing amazing and we hope to meet them soon.
IV Antibiotics for Group B Strep
Sometimes the birthing person desires IV antibiotics for Group Beta Strep prophylaxis. Group Beta Strep/GBS is a bacteria that lives mostly in the gut and can also be found in the genital tract. The bacteria can be passed on to baby during birth and cause sepsis, pneumonia and other infections. An appropriate screening will include a swab of the vagina AND the anus. You should be able to perform this test yourself (my clients do!).

It’s not very common for a baby to get this infection, but if a baby does they can get really sick quick. Discuss your options with your provider and do your research. A prudent provider supports the decisions you make about your plan of care during the pregnancy, birth and postpartum. About half of my clients perform some sort of treatment aimed at GBS. They range from antibiotics to probiotics/gut health to flushes. They all make an informed choice.
Portable Ultrasound
My hands are one of my most important tools I bring to clinic and to a birth. There are times that I need confirmation of what my hands are feeling or if the pregnant person wants to see their little one wiggle around. Over the past year I have had access to this @butterflynetwork portable ultrasound and it has been a life saver. So thankful for the ability to utilize this tool as needed. The two videos are babies in the first and second trimesters. Amazing how quickly these babies grow!
nikki mciver-brown, aprn, msn, cnm
@sanantonionursemidwife


All about the

Pelvic Floor

what is the pelvic floor?
When you think about your pelvic floor, I want you to think about a hammock, made up of muscles. It is the base of your ‘core’. It starts from your pubic bone in the front to your tail bone in the back! And your organs (uterus, bladder, rectum) sit on top of it!
How does my pelvic floor change during pregnancy?
Due to the hormonal and physical changes happening during pregnancy, there are structural changes in the surrounding muscles, facia, ligaments, nerves of the pelvic floor. As the uterus grows, there is an overload on the pelvic floor muscles, causing decrease in the strength of the supportive pelvic structures. This can lead to urinary leaking or some descent of the pelvic organs. This is a great opportunity to initiate preventive treatment strategies and work with a pelvic floor specialist.
How does vaginal birth affect the pelvic floor?
If vaginal birth is related to injury to tissues and nerves of pelvic floor, like with third degree tears or there has been use of instruments such as forceps, then it can lead to things like pelvic pain, urine leaking/ fecal leaking or prolapse(descent of organs into vagina). The stitches after the tear or episiotomy can also cause perineal discomfort or pain.
How does cesarean birth affect the pelvic floor?
Cesarean delivery does not guarantee protection from pelvic floor dysfunction. Effect of Cesarean birth on pelvic floor depends on the timing of cesarean. Data suggests that cesarean performed after 8 cm dilation during late labor can affect pelvic floor muscles. Pelvic floor muscles and abdominals have deep connection and due to the direct trauma to the abdominals during C-section, pelvic floor muscles can sometimes shut off  or else become tense if there is pain at the scar site.
When should I go see a pelvic health therapist and what do they do?
Pelvic health Physical Therapy is a subspecialty of physical therapy. Pelvic PT’s are musculoskeletal experts in the areas associated with the pelvis, (sacrum coccyx, vagina, vulva, penis, scrotum, rectum, colon, and the region).

It is recommended to see a Pelvic PT during the pregnancy, they can help you to move better and take preventative measures for your pelvic health to avoid aches and pain during pregnancy and have a healthy pelvic floor. After giving birth, if you do not have any complications, it is recommended to see Pelvic PT after 4 weeks and 6 weeks after C-section,  after you are cleared by your ObGyn.
Should I do Kegel exercises to help my pelvic floor?
Kegels can be a great way to increase strength of your pelvic floor WHEN done correctly. But kegels are not the answer for everyone. If you have tightness in your pelvic floor, like in case of stitches after a tear or episiotomy, then kegels might actually do more harm. It can lead to pelvic pain. Tightness can also cause leaking because there is imbalance in your muscles. Relaxation of muscles is equally or more important than contraction. Besides, clinically, I have seen that almost about 80% of people don’t know how to do kegels correctly. So make sure you learn how to do them in the right way.
What are some common pelvic health challenges after having a baby?
During pregnancy and birth, so many factors can affect the pelvic floor, like weight of the baby at birth, head circumference, health during pregnancy, pelvic health before pregnancy, trauma at birth, mode of delivery, etc. All these factors can lead to variety of pelvic health challenges such as pain with intimacy or orgasm, vulvar pain or burning, or clitoral pain with or without stimulation, C-section scar pain or vaginal scar pain,  leaking or urine, feces or gas, urgency or frequency of urination or bowels, feeling of heaviness on the vagina as if something is falling out(this can be due to pelvic floor weakness and pelvic floor muscles having difficulty bearing the weight of your organs, which in medical terms we call prolapse or organ descent), constipation stemming from pelvic floor muscles not being able to relax or the need to frequently go to bathroom to empty bowels and still having the feeling of not being able to completely empty. Sometimes C-section can also cause abdominal pain which can be sharp, shooting or burning from the scar. But, the good thing is that there is help available for all of these problems.
Is incontinence normal when you're pregnant and after having a baby?
Incontinence can be common but is NOT NORMAL. During the last trimester, as the baby grows, it puts pressure on your bladder. Your pelvic floor is also being stretched and can be a little weaker during pregnancy and so that can make you more prone to incontinence. It might also be difficulty to control urine during activities with increase in intra abdominal pressure such as coughing, sneezing, laughing.But if this happens your pelvic floor physical therapist can help you.
What are some things I can do to improve my pelvic health before and after having a baby?
Movement in general is good if you don’t have a high-risk pregnancy. But everyone is different and so getting a prenatal preventative check up with a pelvic floor physical therapist can go a long way in understanding pelvic floor muscles, and how to protect them during pregnant, birth and beyond. The fear of “doing harm” to pelvic floor is prevalent in a lot of women during and after birth and so have someone in your birth team who is specialized in pregnant and postpartum women who can guide you and help you with prevention and recovery.
Are there things I can do during labor to protect my pelvic health?
Data suggests that stretching the perineal muscles can reduce the chance of tearing or episiotomy. Also, movement, especially during the early stages of labor helps with increased chances of vaginal delivery with less chances of complications. Doing pelvic tilts and rocking movements on all fours helps with moving your sacrum bone which helps with the descent of the baby through the birth canal. If you have a midwife/pelvic or prenatal physical therapist/doula on your team they will help you with the above things.
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Acupuncture in Labor & Delivery

Acupuncture is the use of ultra fine needles (thin as a strand of hair) on specific points on the body.
In addition to fine needles, acupuncturists use other tools like herbs, for example the burning of mugwort, and even laser can be used on the points. How does it work? Acupuncture allows blood vessels to dilate, which increases blood flow. An increase in blood flow results in decreased pain, improved organ function, and a moderation of the release of stress related hormones.

The use of acupuncture in labor and delivery (L&D) has been documented in China for thousands of years. Modern research, too, shows the role it plays in improving birthing outcomes. A study published in the Obstetrical and Gynecological Survey found that birthing parents who received acupuncture after spontaneous membrane rupture (also known as "water breaking") experienced active labor for a significantly shorter amount of time than the group that did not receive acupuncture (the control group) — the difference was four and a half hours compared to six hours. The need for medical intervention like giving a patient pitocin for longer than two hours was also found to be much less frequent in the acupuncture group than the group that didn't receive acupuncture.

While I was an acupuncture student at Pacific College of Natural Medicine (NYC) I interned at NYU Labor & Delivery for a semester. During that time I assisted in over a dozen births alongside a licensed acupuncturist and birth doula. We mainly used acupressure — at the same points we would usually needle, we used our hands to provide the pain relief and stress management.

The only place to using acupuncture for labor isn't just inside the hospital either.  I have used acupuncture for mothers preparing for an induction, before going to the hospital, too. In two memorable cases the birthing time was much shorter than the average amount of time for an induction. One of the cases was a primipara (or first-time) mother. I made it to her house the day before her induction. Points to facilitate birthing were used and I left her with magnets on these points so she could continue stimulating them. I was about to leave the city, expecting her to possibly go into labor much later or even next day when I found out her labor had begun. I just made it to her birth! It was a wonderful experience, to see the medicine at work so effectively. Experiencing this early in my career, it really solidified the positive potential of acupuncture in pregnancy and birthing.

Acupuncture is an effective and efficient medicine when compared to traditional western models. According to Thervo (an online service connecting consumers to professional services), the average national cost of a private acupuncture visit is about $75 (higher for the initial visit which can be as long as two hours). The higher end based on geographic areas is $300 and the low end is about $40. Additionally the community acupuncture clinic model (see POCA) is one that offers low cost acupuncture, which typically include sliding scales and can be income based.
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Yoga Positions for Pregnancy Pain

lower back pain
Stiff lower back, or an ache feeling in the lower back. Sometimes can be felt through the legs. Caused by the laxity of ligaments due to the hormone relaxin, postural alignment, tight muscles and possible nerve irritation. You'll want to avoid any backpacks as that will just aggravate the low back even more.
child's pose
Start in a table position. Place a blanket under the knees for support. take your knees wide to create space for baby. Reach your arms forward, relaxing the tops of your shoulders. Send the hips back to rest on your feet.
forward fold
Stand with your feet as wide as feels comfortable. Hip distance is a good place to start. Inhale, swoop the arms overhead to lengthen the spine. Exhale, allow the upper body to hinge at the hips, folding the torso into the legs. Take a deep bend in the knee. Hold for a couple of breaths. When you’re ready to come up, bring your hands to your knees and slowly roll up.
pelvic girdle pain
Pain that can be felt in the pelvis/buttock, usually one sided. It's a sharp, catching pain and comes and goes. You may find it difficult to walk, or hard to sit down. Getting comfortable in bed may be difficult for you as well. Caused by the laxity of the ligaments, widening of the pelvis and pressure of babe on your pelvis. You'll want to avoid standing on one leg and avoid spinal twists if it is aggravating for you. If are you can do a gentle twist and comfortable it is perfectly safe.
bridge pose
Start by laying on your back only if it feels comfortable. Bring the feet close to the body so you can gently touch your heels. Plant the feet firmly into the floor, keeping your feet about hip distance apart. Plant the hands firmly into the floor at your sides. Inhale to prepare the body. As you exhale, slowly begin to lift the pelvis upward, engaging the glutes, and keeping a strong base in through the feet. Shoulders should be soft. Engage the legs so the knees are in line with the hips, you don’t want them to open. Inhale for a breath, exhale to release down.
pelvic tilts
Place your hands on your hips.  Imagine your pelvic floor muscles as a bowl of water. Inhale to lengthen the spine, exhale and gently tilt the pelvis forward as if you were trying to keep the water in the bowl. Inhale, and as you exhale tilt the pelvis back to let water out. You can do this as many times as feels comfortable.
symphysis pubis dysfunction
You'll experience pain doing movements standing up, like putting on pants. Pain in the groin and inner thigh near the pubic area. You'll find it difficult to walk and standing on one leg. Pain intensifies with widening the legs. Inflammation and pain the pubic area is caused by the widening of the pelvis. You'll want to avoid one sided poses and standing and be mindful of your leg position.
cat pose
Start in a table top position. Hips are stacked over knees, shoulders are stacked over the wrists. Blanket is under the knees for support. If there is pain in the wrist you can create a fist and be on the knuckles. Inhale to prepare the body, and as you exhale your going to create an arch in the spine by bringing your gaze towards baby, bringing baby inwards. Inhale, and as you exhale release back to a neutral spine.
round ligament pain
Lightening bolt type pain, or a shooting pain around the lower belly. Comes and goes and is rather quick. Caused by stretching of the ligaments surrounding the uterus and becomes worse with sudden movement. You'll want to avoid anything that stretches the ligaments. Watch your transitions as you move.
savasana
Lay on your back if it feels comfortable. You can place a pillow under the knees if that feels more comfortable. Allow the face to relax. Soft shoulders. Hands can be on your belly. Taking nice deep breaths, lay here for as long as you like.
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4 things I wish I'd known about postpartum

Childbirth is a beautiful thing, and the postpartum period is just as important. We go through so much — every stage deserves to be met with love and support.

it takes 2-6 days for your milk to come in
Some parents get anxious, like I did, when days pass and you're not sure if your milk has "come in." But every person, birth, and body is different. Although milk usually comes in 2-3 days after a vaginal birth it can take up to a week after a cesarean. In the meantime, your body produces colostrum, and that's enough for your baby. Their stomach is very tiny and does not require a lot in the beginning. But as nursing continues, that changes along with everything else.
the sensation of milk coming in
When my milk first came in my breasts were very hard and sore and I felt a sharp tingly sensation in my nipples. I was not expecting it and did not know what to do. My nurse assured me that everything was fine and this was all part of hormones operating in my body. The tingling sensation happens with a lot of women as a part of what's called "milk letdown." The sensation typically goes away after a while.
that my perineum would be sore
I was most unprepared for this one. After your cervix goes from a tightly closed 0 cm to a very open 10 cm your perineum will be sore whether you pushed for 10 minutes or 2 hours. Even people who've had a cesarean can still have a sore perineum. The comforts that worked best for me were frozen padsicles, sitz baths, using a peri bottle with warm water to spray on after using the restroom and lots of rest.
the first bowel movement takes a minute
After my first birth in the hospital, I was given laxatives to help me go. After my second birth, which was at home, I relied on fiber rich foods. I learned both times that the easiest way to have your first bowel movement without making things worse on your vagina is to hold your it while you go. Don't force it. Be gentle, and patient.
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